In their teens, young people go through a lot of changes and it can be a difficult time for the whole family. Watch the video to learn about parenting your teenager and develop your listening skills, vocabulary and pronunciation as you complete the activities. 

Tasks

Task 1 - comprehension

Task 2 - collocations

Task 3 - vocabulary

Task 4 - word stress

All the adjectives in this task come from the video above ‘Parenting Teenagers.

Practise saying the words. How many syllables does each one have and where is the main stress?

For example, in the word ‘parenting’, there are three syllables and the main stress is on the first syllable.

This can be shown like this: Ooo (parenting)

Task 5 - summary

Transcript

Parenting teenagers

They don't like to get advice from their parents and I think what you've got to understand is your teenagers are not you, they're not a little mini version of you, they're completely individual people and I think as parents you tend to think that we know best for them when really what you have to do is give them the space to get their own identity.

Handling teenagers is all about change. It's a transition period, really, because children are growing up, they want more independence and they want to try out and take risks and do all sorts of different things, and probably things that we don't really want them to do, so handling kids that are going through these transitions is all about you, the parent.

You can't say to them, follow like when you was kid and your parents was as strict, they will never listen to you. So you want them to respect you, you should respect them.

They do gain a lot of independence and they need that independence and that little bit of space to grow.

The first thing that parents will notice will be the physical changes. And then along with those go a lot of emotional changes, so they'll start to become sensitive about comments on their appearance, maybe argumentative.

Why are these changes happening?

There are these huge hormonal changes at the onset of puberty and it was originally thought that the hormonal changes trigger changes in mood and personality and behaviour, but what we now know is that it's not just changes in hormones that cause these personality changes, it's also because the brain is undergoing a lot of changes during that period of life. That might account for changes in behaviour such as an increased self-consciousness, the ability to plan, so to decide what to do and when, to remember to do things in the future. Maybe even increase risk taking that we know occurs during adolescence.

The peer group starts to become really important because your child as a teenager begins to look for an identity which is very much related to who their friends are.

I try not to be too strict, so let her, you know, make her own choices and try to be like an advisor more than a governor.

It's really, really important that you've got someone to talk to, especially for girls, a female figure in your life you can relate to about little problems and things like that.

They're learning to be active in the world and it's very interesting cause they will challenge your values. If you're religious, they will probably go non-religious, if you're non-religious, they'll probably go religious. You know, that's the nature of teenagers to sort of explore who they are.

Try not to criticise…respect your child.

The key energy of any successful family is respect. By showing respect to your children, they learn to trust you and respect you back.

Your child may often get angry…pick your battles carefully.

A new person is developing here and you need to recognise and be in touch with this new person, this teenager.

Early teens are going through many changes. They are exploring who they are. They tend to be looking for an identity.

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