Most parents have times when they struggle to discipline their children, but there are things you can do to encourage good behaviour. Watch the video to learn about positive discipline and develop your listening skills and vocabulary as you complete the activities.

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Task 1 - true or false?

Task 2 - comprehension

Task 3 - vocabulary

Task 4 - summary

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I want to play …

I want it .

They will constantly argue over silly things like what rooms they can use to do their homework, whether they are allowed in and out of each other's rooms and sometimes they will actually start punching and hitting each other.

We just fight and punch, kick, strangle and kick in the winkies.

A lot of parents confuse the word discipline with punishment. Discipline is about educating your child to follow your rules.

You need to have set rules and you need to hold to those rules no matter what they are.

We’d start by saying, if Charlie was having a tantrum, you know, we’d say, “Charlie, stop crying, stop shouting.” And then if he doesn't, we'll say, “One, two…” and then he generally stops and then we'll maybe have a chat about it and then he might have a bit of time out, go to the bedroom.

If ever Joshua does anything wrong, we'll actually sit down with him at his level, face-to-face. Again, talking to him as a child, you know, pointing out why that was wrong to do that.

In lots of research worldwide, positive discipline has been shown to work best in getting children to behave in the way you want them to behave.

I want it back.

You have that one.

No, I want that one.

When there is serious misbehaviour, like you can't just ignore it, it works quite well to have consequences to that action, so perhaps take away a favourite game for a while, show that you think the behaviour is wrong. Criticise the behaviour, not the child, so say, “That was really disappointing when you didn't share,” or whatever it is, rather than, “Oh, you're a really naughty child for doing that,” because then they are more likely to take in what you're saying, that that's that behaviour that needs to change. They don't hear that they're the naughty one and they can't change because you just think they're naughty all the time.

Keep talking and explain everything.

It's also important, though, to explain to children why you think what they've done is wrong because they may not understand that. They may just be behaving in the way kids do. Make children think about their behaviour, so then they are more likely to develop a conscience themselves.

… so if you can play nicely with her, please. Try not to snatch things or throw things. You know you shouldn't throw things, don't you?

Yes.

Positive discipline takes energy but gives long term results.

One of the most important bits of discipline is actually just getting a positive relationship with your child. Children every age will copy parents. Now, if you're going to smack a child because they've done something, don't be surprised if they then go and hit their sister, or go out and smack a child in the playground. You're giving the wrong message that hitting people is okay to get your way, and long-term, you're spoiling the good relationship you have with them, which really all of discipline has to be based on.

Give love and warmth.

When you're loving and kind and giving them praise for all the things you like, they want to keep it like that and they really misbehave very little.

Positive discipline works.

Offer praise when they behave well.

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Family Lives is a charity which aims to support families living in the UK. You can visit their website here http://www.familylives.org.uk.